Holy...!

As part of his efforts to keep the marriage together we attended a 4-day marriage intensive seminar in Georgia at the Smalley Center.  I was very content witht he fact that my husband had arranged everything for this to happen (I agreed to go under those terms).  The four days we were there were grueling.  I am a talker and I have NEVER talked or listened as much as during that time.  By the time we got out I never wanted to speak to anybody ever again.  Of the five couples there (us included) there were 3 that were on shaky ground.  I know one won't make it, I don't think the other one will and as for us, well... I only agreed to not file for divorce for the time being.

A couple of months later we attended a Retrouvaille weekend (another fix your marriage thing) and I got so much out of it, plus it was cheaper than the other one and it only took 2 days.  For me it wasn't so much the method or formula they were using, but more than that I reached a spiritual connection I had been missing for a long tim.  What's more, I had to forgive my husband (to find out why I had  to forgive, go to Http://gabrielaj.blogspot.com read the oldest post) and realized what I had committed to 9 years before.  It's not all pretty and it definitely isn't easy...

I did start wondering if we would ever get out of the "help us" mode and be able to move on on our own or if we would just become addicted to all the seminar-style help, but this week I finally felt like we will be able to work on things on our own. 

Now whether we'll stay together or not for good is another question...!!!

:-)