That's what friends are for

Back to life:

One of the things that kept me from hanging the husband by the balls is the way that he surprises me from time to time.  He has a way of making me feel more loved than I ever have and if you haven't figured it out by now, the sex is great. 

We had another problem in between all of this:  One of his closest friends knew all about the affair and didn't say much about it -- I don't mean to me, but to my husband.  I would think that as a friend, if I decide to go off with a nude dancer 20 years younger than me, my friends would have some advice ready to dispense as fast as a kleenex.  The worst part is that this friend of his was someone I trusted, someone I loved and most of all someone I thought truly cared about me and my family.  I know I sound foolish to the average person or that I should know by now that bond that men share, but this was someone who always insisted the kids and I should try to come around often while they worked, because of that whole family vibe and how it wasn't fun unless I was there...  (or did he say it the other way around?)

As a new page turned in my book, I got a better grab of something that dwelled in the far back part of my brain for years and I will share it here:  What is wrong with the way things are is that no one is willing to call things for their face value.  The friend didn't have to tell me about the affair, but let's really think about this:  Had he shown a certain dissaproval or even made some sort of threat my husband would have most likely listened and not made such a huge mistake.  After it was all said and done, he would have probably been thankful.  People these days are too indifferent, but not out of correctness, but out of fear, or politics.

I heard a great quote, but I don't know who came up with it:  "The average dog is a better person than the average person"

Back to the surprises my husband springs up from time to time.  When the whole thing with the friend blew up (I let the friend know how I felt), I told him how there was the chance we'd probably lose a group of friends due to the "conflict".  "So?" he said, "I've realized I never have fun with them anyway unless you are there!" 

What a gem.